Friday, October 7, 2011

My Girl, My Garden, My Pioneer Style Fringed Leather Jacket

My girl knows two essential skills:  1) How to use a can of WD-40 and 2) How to do that trick that, by blowing on your thumb, lifts the baseball cap off the top of your head.  Please, girl of my heart, never forget you can fix things as well as the next fella, that you know magic tricks and how to make yourself laugh beyond yourself.




My Garden knows two essential things:  1)  How to grow and 2) How to die.  I take notes with the shovel, the row, the dirt crusted gloves holding the shape of my hands.  I eat her death and her dreaming while I slept.  Unlike me, she has seen every passing moon and knows what attention means standing still beneath the sky for over 4 months, letting herself unfurl and bloom, leaves unfolding to accept the loving son without a doubt about what she was to be, what she could do, her potential, her worth.  She was born from seeds weighing less than 8 ounces.  She simply became what God intended her to be.  Not once did she brag to me.  Not once did she heave beneath the suffocating weeds, greedy aphid, heavy winds.  Not once did she say to me, "Who are you?"  She let me in each time and accepted whatever time I had to mend and support, to kneel.  And God knew how much we needed each other, so  He brought us together, so sacred symbiosis sing.








My Pioneer Style Fringed Leather Jacket knows two essential things:  1) It is altogether fitting and proper to be found for 10 dollars at Et. Cetera, and the woman with pale blue eyes and white hair will hold it a little too long as she puts it in the plastic bag until she finally looks up and says, "I used to have a jacket just like this."  "You should take it."  "No, that was a long time ago.  This will look nice on you." and 2)  When I wear this jacket I will remember the woman who wore it before, a pioneer of something, her life perhaps.  Digging in, looking wide, dreaming so big it hurt to blink, so she never slept and the flat lands opened like hands that hold an invisible grace.



Weird

I put Nora to bed and after what seemed like a few seconds, got up thinking, "Well, time to get to work."  I checked the clock, and some sort of time warp thing must have happened because it's 3:20 AM.  I'm pretty sure I put Nora in bed around 8:30.  I don't want to concern any of you out there, but I think I may have just experienced that missing time phenomena that a lot of people talk about.  I don't remember anything about the hours between 8:30 PM and 3:20 AM.   For some reason though, I feel really well rested.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Name Them

Being trusted with the challenge.  Be courageous.  Do not be easily dismayed.

The way God makes paths for us to find each other.

The way a breeze comes through the screen door, the sound of trees moving, His presence in His creation.

Good news in the lives of those I love.

Songs written.  The ukuleles must be tuning.

All the teachers trying and taking and giving and trying again.  Swimming and swimming.

Moms everywhere giving their days and nights to their children.  Children thriving, learning love.

Simplifying because confusion doesn't come from God.  Walk with the wind.  Walk with the wind.

Cute haircuts.  I need one.  (See, this is why I don't watch TV.  I start thinking I need things.)

Laughing with mom about Betty White and tough kittens.  That's all I'm going to say.

Monday, October 3, 2011

A Few Pics from the Farm


We repot the parlor fern and Nora tapes toilet paper bandages around the stems for a faster recovery.  (She's wearing her farm safety T-shirt.  Apparently that symbol on the back means "slow moving vehicle."  If this is supposed to apply to Nora, I beg to differ.)


This is it for the apple harvest this year.  In past years, I've pulled over 30 bags of apples from those trees (once during a snowstorm--it was BEAUTIFUL--the yellow apple glowing in the white snow.)  Storms, cedar rust, larvae and my ignorance about how to prune them have contributed to the lack of apples.  Next year will be different.  I've been doing my research.


There are about five crab apple trees, which serve mostly to entertain the person washing the dishes and dreaming out the kitchen window as the trees put on their exploding pink dresses.  This year I'm going to make them functional, too.  (Not that daydreaming isn't functional.)  Crab apple jelly.


The apples' fate.


These are the cilantro/corriander seeds.  I'll admit; threshing these are a pain.  But not as painful as paying 4 bucks for 4 ounces of them at the store.  Plus, I can plant them, too. 


The Backus boys came over Saturday and helped Nora and me pull carrots and gather decorative gourds.  Here's our haul.  Notice all that dirt?  I'm going to admit something to you:  if I eat a piece of dirt, I throw up.  I know.  Not very tough of me.  Because of an unfortunate potato chip incident when I was 5, I haven't been able to eat anything that crunches grit-like.  Egg shells and dirt.  I completely lose my appetite.  


Carrot tip of the day:  If it's split, don't eat it (see below.)  This is usually a sign that it's gotten too old and big for its britches.  Plus, those cracks are the perfect home for bacteria.  Another interesting thing:  Do you notice how the carrot is kind of twisted?  That's because my soil leans toward the clay side of the spectrum.  Plus all my stomping around compresses the ground, so the root torques itself through the tough spots.  Kind of like us, I guess.  We find a way around it, but we sometimes come out changed somehow.

(A quick aside:  I walked around the dirt roads around Utica today.  For a good half mile, I was walking into the wind, leaning in.  I couldn't hear anything but the hard air forcing sound out of my ears.  I turned around and silence.  Birds.  Trees.  The same spot with two different ways of hearing.  Internally, I smacked my figurative forehead.  I'm trying too hard again.  Walk with the wind, stubborn kid, and you'll hear all of life rather than the silencing struggle of "getting through it.")


Do you see those dark spots at the top of the carrot?  That's not dirt but carrot sunburn--the top parts exposed to the sun.  


And after washing and chopping and peeling, I have 3 pounds of carrot sticks.  Okay.  I know what you're thinking.  Three pounds?  After all that work--the planting and watering and hoeing and washing and...well, I'm not going to argue with you.  It seems like a small payoff, but did you count the time I did something simple with my hands, something that didn't hurt a soul?  Something that allowed me to talk to God for a long stretch out in the sun and here at the sink?  Something that proved the miracle of some small hope turning into something so much larger than the small seed it began as?


And I make a couple different carrot pickles:  honey and dill with white wine vinegar.  Hot peppers flakes, peppercorn, thyme, bay leaf and apple cider vinegar. 




Hi, ya'll!

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Putting Up the Fall Harvest, Putting Up the Bed, Lifting Up a Good Prayer, And Then I'll Rest My Head

I've been working with the carrots and apples and crab apples (small, grumpy apples) tonight and will be making carrot pickles and jelly tomorrow.  The apple crisp is baking as I type, the hour turning past midnight.  I couldn't help it.  The thought of coffee and apple crisp in the morning was enough inspiration to postpone my bedtime a bit.

Nora and I doctored the houseplants today and finished redecorating her bedroom.  I had to completely dissect the daybed that was downstairs to make it a one person moving job, but it gave me an excuse to use a crescent wrench.  [in a manly voice] Oh, yeah.  (Flexes muscles, picks teeth, smells armpits.)  After we finished her room, taping the alphabet to the wall, pulling out polly pockets for a bit of "polly pocket animal rescue," I looked around and thought, "I want to be a little girl again.  I want to live in this room."  That thought made me giddy.

I looked out my window today and noticed the mailbox door was hanging open a bit.  Approaching the mailbox, I realized that our mailman had stuffed my amazon boxes into the mailbox and tied the whole thing together with rubber bands.  After admiring his determination, I freed my mailbox from its tethers, plucking a few notes on the rubber bands for the fun of it and pulled the boxes free.  My Book of Common Prayer had arrived.  And here's one for tonight for anyone going through a major life transition (I'd argue we always are):

"Lord, help me now to unclutter my life, to organize myself in the direction of simplicity.  Lord, teach me to listen to my heart; teach me to welcome change, instead of fearing it.  Lord, I give you these stirrings inside me.  I give you my discontent.  I give you my restlessness.  I give you my doubt.  I give you my despair.  I give you all the longing I hold inside.  Help me to listen to these signs of change, of growth; help me to listen seriously and follow where they lead through the breathtaking empty space of an open door."

For all of you who are asking and looking and seeking and praying and finding a still space to listen for God so you might know what to do, I send my love and this prayer.    Courage, dear friends.  He says, "I am always with you," even when you are unsure what to make of this life or what this life is making of you.

I just pulled the apple crisp out, leaving the oven door open like my dad always did, using the warmth to heat the house.

'night friends.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

Organized Curiosity: Part I -- Maya Angelou

I have loved her for as long as I knew there were bodies that could be hurt, that we could speak some healing in those torn places.  I have loved her before she came to UNC to speak, and I sat in the the room outside of the auditorium where the crowd had spilled out, leaning into the intercom to hear her.  I have loved her since "Phenomenal Woman."  So, as part of my desire to begin my research (for nothing other than to find things that speak of life abundant), I watched a program hosted by Bill Moyers about creativity.  At some point back in the early 80's, Mr. Moyers conducted many, many hour long interviews with writers to attempt to pin down what makes "our awareness leap to new ground" as we make art.  I'm going to simply copy here a few things I jotted down while watching.  Perhaps these snippets will inspire you, as they did me, to take up the bag filled with pens and paper I'd tried to leave behind at the station because I was convinced I wasn't really a writer.

We must wait around until the creative thing reaches for us.  To run after it would spook it.  Just wait.

The difference between a person and an artist is that a person will simply curse like hell when something bad happens.  An artist will first curse like hell and then ask, "So, what can I do about this?"

Traits of Creative People:

-  They wear a lot of plaid.  (Wait, that wasn't in the video.)
-  They challenge assumptions.
-  They work hard.
-  They recognize patterns.
-  They see divergent ideas and find ways to bring them together.  (Blessed are the peacemakers!)
-  They take risks.  (I need a bit of this lately.)
-  They seize upon chance.
-  They collaborate with others.  (Ownership of a product is less important than process.)

And Maya says:

"There is a place beyond talent and technique where life itself becomes an artistic process."  (YESYESYES)

"You never leave home.  You take it everywhere you go."

"I was terribly hurt and vastly loved in this town."  (In this home, in this world, in this life...)

"I went to church because of the sorrow songs.  And the promise in them."

"I finally found my own husband."
"How many times have you been married, Maya?"
"Enough.  You know, I was a woman looking for a man.  And I finally found him."

"I had to scrape my pen across those scars."

"Keep your sweetness, but know that deep down there is a ball of steel underneath.  Select carefully because you were born to survive."  (By now, I'm crying uncontrollably through the documentary.  This is the kind of research I was looking for.  Prayers heard.  Surprising ways in which they are filled.)

"...she gave me back my voice.  Allow yourself to be touched by others."

And Bill closes the night with, "Where our hearts are, there too are our treasures."

So, where is my heart?  I need to know.  And you do too, I'm betting.